Tracie Frank Mayer

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Incompatible with Nature

"No surgery can save him," the doctor explained to my husband in German.

"Let your son die," he said to me in broken English.

 

This is the inspirational story of one woman's fight to save her son's life.

 

“Look to each day for the goodness it brings,

 for living life is to believe in all things.”

Tracie Frank Mayer

“Nobody has ever measured, not even poets, how much the heart can hold.”

Zelda Fitzgerald

Tracie Frank Mayer

was born in Seattle, Washington, to a beauty queen and a gifted

entrepreneurial father, who courted her mother with a winning smile and the flash of

a canary yellow Cadillac.

 

 

 

Tracie

began working in the family real estate business at the age of nine by cleaning apartments on weekends. She has fond memories of sitting at her mother’s side in the evenings, watching her apply an assortment of creams, tonics and lotions to her face.

When

Tracie received her undergraduate degree in Business Administration from Seattle University, she had already been working in the family office full time, overseeing—along with her parents and two younger sisters—the management of nearly four-hundred rental units.

In 1983,

on a weekend jaunt to Puerto Vallarta, Mexico, Tracie met her future husband, Helmut. She married him a year later. Undaunted by a language she couldn’t speak, Tracie packed her bags and moved to Cologne, Germany, Helmut’s hometown. There she gave birth to her only child, a son named Marc.

Residing in Cologne,

Germany since 1984, Tracie has worked as a writer, blogger, lyricist, public speaker, and real estate investor. Talk with Tracie, her English language coaching business, is popular with German celebrities hoping to improve their English conversation skills. She also works with corporations, training executives to become more relaxed and fluent while speaking English. Tracie’s energy, enthusiasm, and optimism encourage her clients to relax and have fun with English.

As a bi-lingual moderator,

Tracie’s most recent engagements include her work as a juror and moderator for Das Goldene Stadttor –The Golden City Gate – an internationally recognized multimedia competition at ITB, the world’s largest travel trade fair in Berlin, Germany (March, 2016). Tracie was a guest speaker and fund raiser on behalf of  the Austrian and German Children’s Protective Agencies at the 2016 Vienna Film Ball in Austria. In June, 2016, Tracie served as a juror at the 2016 Miss Giessen/Miss Germany beauty pageant.

Among her many pursuits,

Tracie supports various charitable organizations, including die Elterninitiative Herzkranker Kinder, Köln e.V. (Parents Initiative for Children with Heart Disease of Cologne), the Ronald McDonald House in Cologne, the Elternhilfe for Kinder mit Rett Syndrome in Deutschland (parents’ support group for children with Rett Syndrome), Doctors for Ethiopia and the VITA e.V. Assistenzhunde (VITA Assistant Dogs Organization)

Tracie is an active member of the American International Women’s Club of Cologne,

a social organization that supports the international community in Cologne and raises funds for a variety of philanthropic projects focused on women’s rights. She is also a long time member of FAWCO (Federation of American Women’s Clubs Overseas), a United Nations recognized NGO, with a membership base of over 12,000 women from more than thirty countries. Alongside other FAWCO members, Tracie uses her moderation skills to create awareness of issues that affect women and girls around the world.

Tracie Frank Mayer loves pink, but she will wear any color.

“Look to each day for the goodness it brings,

 for living life is to believe in all things.”

Tracie Frank Mayer

“Nobody has ever measured, not even poets, how much the heart can hold.”

Zelda Fitzgerald

Incompatible with Nature
a Mothers Story

"Tracie is a hero. May many parents learn from her experience."

Dr. med. Dipl. Psych. Alex Gillor

"This story of Marc offers an example of how a determined mother never lost hope and how she pursued a worldwide search to provide the best possible options to save the life of her suffering child. I am certain this narrative will  move the reader of this well written, compassionate and compelling human story."

Aldo Castañeda, M.D. Ph.D.

"A parent’s inspiring memoir, full of love, humor, and heartache. . . linguistic richness to be found throughout the text."

Kirkus Review

"Congenital heart defects are a leading cause of infant illness and death. There is certainly an urgent need for more public awareness. I wish I would have had an inspirational story to read some thirty plus years ago when my journey began. We can research facts and figures, but stories are how we learn best.

 

We live for inspiration.

 

Life is full of disappointments and none of us is immune. The improbable seems a lifetime away, but the truth is that we win some, we lose some, and sometimes we lose a lot. We struggle daily to navigate existence and regardless of the magnitude of our challenges, we seek inspirational stories of faith and hope, especially when courage is tested.

 

Incompatible with Nature–a Mother’s Story is a testament to the perseverance of the human spirit.

 

My message: Never give up. Never stop fighting for your child’s life. Even when the odds are against you. If you read my story and are inspired to draw upon the love, the passion and the will to fight one more day to save a child’s life, then I believe I will have helped to change the world for the better. I can’t think of anything more rewarding.

 

My fight with adversity is a tale that will give hope and encouragement to anyone facing any battle not of  their own choosing.

 

Here’s to life."

Tracie Frank Mayer

Read the first Chapter

“Look to each day for the goodness it brings,

 for living life is to believe in all things.”

Tracie Frank Mayer

“Nobody has ever measured, not even poets, how much the heart can hold.”

Zelda Fitzgerald

menopausebarbees

Together with her sister Dana, who resides in Seattle, Washington, Tracie writes an

upbeat blog—menopausebarbees—about the meaning, madness, and magic of

middle age. You can visit their blog at www.menopausebarbees.com.

Let´s have a look

“Look to each day for the goodness it brings,

for living life is to believe in all things.”

Tracie Frank Mayer

“Nobody has ever measured, not even poets, how much the heart can hold.”

Zelda Fitzgerald

Talk with Tracie

…and learn to express your ideas and thoughts in English effectively!

 

As an English Language Coach, my aim is to help you learn to feel comfortable communicating in the English language. Because my instructions are tailored to your individual needs, you and I will be able to focus specifically on what we need to do to help you achieve your own personal goals.

My techniques will help you in:

  • Vocabulary building,
  • Grammar and sentence structure
  • Accent reduction
  • Strengthening your writing skills
  • Marketing your product
  • Product presentation
  • Developing an overall sense of confidence when speaking

Your goals are my goals.

And that is the reason why my personalized programs are better than attending a language school. You will be motivated with my “learn by speaking” methods and you will have fun.

 

I am an English native speaker and experienced in guiding children as well as adults. I will support you as long as necessary to help you achieve your goals.

“Look to each day for the goodness it brings,

for living life is to believe in all things.”

Tracie Frank Mayer

“Nobody has ever measured, not even poets, how much the heart can hold.”

Zelda Fitzgerald

Photo Gallery

My mother and father holding Marc hours after his birth November 30, 1984.
My mother and father holding Marc hours after his birth November 30, 1984.
My parents had arrived in Germany three days prior to Marc’s birth–their very first visit to the country. Here they are holding him, their first grandchild, hours after his birth, They are ecstatic!
Braveheart!
Braveheart!
Marc’s fearlessness has never ceased to amaze me!

Here he is flyboarding in Ibiza, Spain in 2014. How fitting that the etymological meaning of the word ‘heart’ is ‘courage’!
With surgeon Dr. Aldo Castañeda and Marc after a successful surgery at Children’s Hospital Boston in 1994.
With surgeon Dr. Aldo Castañeda and Marc after a successful surgery at Children’s Hospital Boston in 1994.
Words cannot, express my gratitude to this brilliant surgeon who saved my son’s life.

As of this writing, Dr. Castañeda, at eighty-six years of age, is living in Guatemala City, Guatemala where he has founded UNICARP Hospital, the first pediatric cardiac surgical care unit in the country.
This center has become the regional referral base and source of training for physicians and nurses throughout the region and currently serves children from Guatemala, Honduras, El Salvador, Nicaragua, Belize, Haiti, and the Dominican Republic.

It is not unusual for Dr. Castañeda’s team to repair the hearts of many babies and children of impoverished families at no charge. Dr. Castañeda has established the Aldo Castañeda Foundation to ensure sustainability of the program.

He goes to work everyday.

If you can, please make a donation to his foundation. Make your check payable to The Friends of Dr. Aldo Castañeda Foundation. Mailing Address: Boston Children’s Hospital 300 Longwood Ave, Boston, MA 02115, United States.
Feeling like a princess!
Feeling like a princess!
A fairy tale trip to the Vienna Film Ball in Austria would not be complete without making a visit to one of the grandest palaces of the world: Schönbrunn Palace, a former imperial summer residence. Read more about it and Vienna’s beloved empress Sissi in the menopausebarbees blogpost, Once Upon a Time (April 12, 2016)
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LEA Awards 2015
LEA Awards 2015
This gala event recognizes the stakeholders of ‘live events’ in the music industry; namely, the managers, concert promoters and venue operators for successful shows, festivals, tours and individual events and/or outstandingly well-run locations. This industry is a pillar of the German world of music.

In other words, this is great big business. Read more about it in the blogpost at www.menopausebarbees.com, If You Want Loyalty (April 16, 2016)
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With the heart and soul behind the Vienna Film Ball and CEO of Global Connections, Manfred Schoedsack
With the heart and soul behind the Vienna Film Ball and CEO of Global Connections, Manfred Schoedsack
I had the pleasure of attending the 7th International Film Ball of Vienna which was held in the magnificent (Rathaus) City Hall in Vienna, Austria.. The glamorous event was sponsored and hosted by Mr. Manfred Schoedsack, who also generously provided airport limousine shuttles as well as overnight accommodations for his guests at the five-star PALAIS Hansen Kempinski Hotel Vienna.

Thank you for the invitation Mr. Schoedsack! Aside from his generosity, he is also one of the kindest people you’ll ever meet.

Read more about this amazing evening in the menopausebarbees blogpost, Some Enchanted Evening (April 6, 2016)
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What a surprise!
What a surprise!
Thank you to William Balser, Liane Wirzberger and Alexander Feyh for this wonderful cover photo of me taken at the 2016 Vienna Film Ball. Get more news at www.society-magazin.de
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Speaking and fundraising on behalf of the children at the 2016 Vienna Film Ball
Speaking and fundraising on behalf of the children at the 2016 Vienna Film Ball
Grüssgott und Servus Vienna!

I am honored to be here this evening.

If I may, I’d like to take a moment to ask you to consider all victims the world over, who, because of their skin color, race, religion, gender, sexual orientation or disability have faced any form of violence, humiliation, abuse or terror. We have no place in our world for this injustice, wouldn’t you agree?

A healthy world begins with our children and how they are influenced by their environments. Do they feel supported? Do they feel encouraged? Do they feel loved?

Tonight, with your generous donation to the Kinderschutzbund Österreich, you will be supporting the efforts of this wonderful organization, which was established to protect children’s rights, shield them from violence and raise them up out of poverty by supporting them with psychological, social, legal and medical counseling.

You should care about this because the children are indeed our future.There can be no better investment and who knows? One day, one of these children may have to help you in your time of need.

You – each of you, can make a difference. If you don’t have a history of giving, then there’s no better time to start than now. Your contribution can help to transform a needy child from a state of victimhood into being a person of character and a thriving member of society. You can make a direct and measurable impact on a child’s life.

Imagine that.

So in diesem Sinne, bitte ich Sie um Ihre Unterstützung.Greifen Sie tief in Ihre Taschen. Jeder Cent zählt und im Namen der Kinder, der Zukunft unsere Welt, danke ich Ihnen sehr.

Thank you very much!
We’ve come a long way, my baby!
We’ve come a long way, my baby!
Mother and son having a grand time in Barcelona, Spain August 2016. It is moments like these that make me feel life is so good that I just want to pinch myself!
Barcelona!
Barcelona!
Palm trees, good food, good people. Barcelona is the largest metropolis on the Mediterranean Sea, and it is here where I fell in love with the architectural works of Antoni Gaudí. Here I am at one of his greatest works: LaPedera. Madman or genius? You decide. Read more at menopausebarbees, Barcelona! (August 30, 2016).
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With my son, Marc and uncle Quincy at the Montreux Jazz Festival 2016
With my son, Marc and uncle Quincy at the Montreux Jazz Festival 2016
Marc and I waited along with a few others in our uncle’s dressing room before the show that first night. He entered the room, saw me and said “There’s my baby.” We all bear hugged. This man amazes me in every which way.

After each night at the close of the show, people nearly elbowed each other to get next to him. To touch him. To say, “Quincy, remember thirty years ago when. . .” And he is patient and kind, looks you in the eye when he speaks with you, and smiles for all the pictures. . . and all the pictures and all the pictures. Read more in the menopausebarbees blogpost, The Man in Montreux (July 25, 2016).
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With my darling baby sister and co-menopausebarees blogger Dana and our beautiful mother celebrating Mother’s day 2016 in NYC
With my darling baby sister and co-menopausebarees blogger Dana and our beautiful mother celebrating Mother’s day 2016 in NYC
These two women are my backbone. I love them more than words can say. Every single day is a celebration when we are together. Every single day!
Queen Sofia!
Queen Sofia!
Elegant, dignified, I don’t think I’ve ever met a more refined, charming woman. Everything about her is kind: her face, her smile, her handshake, everything.
Born a princess of Greece and Denmark, her roots stem from one of the oldest royal dynasties in Europe. Her Royal Majesty Queen Sofia of Spain is the eldest daughter of King Paul I and Queen Frederica from Greece. She has three children and eight grandkids.

And she gave me a kiss on the cheek!
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With the one and only Harald Glööckler
With the one and only Harald Glööckler
I tip my hat to the creative genius of Mr. Harald Glööckler who so graciously invited me to his exclusive fashion show in the ballroom of the Hotel de Rome and his gala dinner afterwards at the Hotel Titanic in Berlin, Germany.

Harald Glööckler is certainly living his life with no regrets. He is free in his mind and with his creativity and he works hard. To quote him:

“What I particularly noticed (as a child) was the fear-mongering. If you don’t play by our rules, if you don’t do what we tell you, we’ll punish you, and then you won’t be one of us any more. I didn’t want to belong in the first place…”

Please do visit his website–he’s designed something for everyone!
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Volunteering at the Ronald McDonald House in Cologne, Germany July 14, 2016 with Annette, Astrid und Nicola
Volunteering at the Ronald McDonald House in Cologne, Germany July 14, 2016 with Annette, Astrid und Nicola
...Shortly before all the dishes had been washed and put away and the kitchen had had its final wipe down, a mother who had eaten earlier and shortly thereafter dashed back to her baby, came rushing back in saying that the cannelloni was so good, she’d love to have another serving, if that was ok. We were thrilled that we had a bit left over and could give her something to smile about because that truth remains: when we do something good for someone else, we feel good.

There’s nothing better. It has no boundaries, no limitations. It’s a win-win. And at the end of the night, that’s a good thing.

Read more at menopausebarbees, The Ronald McDonald House in Cologne, (July 20, 2016)
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With Erhard Priewe and the lovely Britta Peddinghaus at the Vita Charity Gala 2016. Thank you for the invitation Mr. Priewe!
With Erhard Priewe and the lovely Britta Peddinghaus at the Vita Charity Gala 2016. Thank you for the invitation Mr. Priewe!
Herr Priewe and his crew spared not one inch on detail. Their event design at the Kurhaus was breathtakingly amazing: the larger than life floral arrangements; the graceful tablescapes–the beverages and the banquet–from the first sip of the Fürst Von Metternich cuvée to the last bite of the peach melba à la Käfers–it was all a feast not only for the palette, but also for the eyes.

Read more about this event at www.menopausebarbees.com
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Nothing like having a good laugh with Sydney Youngblood!
Nothing like having a good laugh with Sydney Youngblood!
We all remember Sydney’s hits, including his "Sit and Wait", "I'd Rather Go Blind" and his debut "If Only I Could”. Nothing like a talented artist with his feet on the ground who loves a good laugh!
Moderating at the ITB in Berlin, film competition the Golden Citygate, the world’s number one touristic film, print and multi-media competition.
Moderating at the ITB in Berlin, film competition the Golden Citygate, the world’s number one touristic film, print and multi-media competition.
My name is Tracie. I am honored to be here and on behalf of the Golden CityGate, the world’s number 1 film, print and multimedia competition, I warmly welcome all of you.

We are delighted the you’re here and as you all know, this year we are celebrating the fiftieth anniversary of the ITB as well as the fifteenth anniversary of the brainchild of Mr. Wolfgang Huschert: The Golden City Gate. What began as a competition between five films from three countries 15 years ago, has ballooned into an event that has evaluated 1500 submissions from 42 countries today. This is an amazing achievement in such a short time huge and is worthy of an applause for Mr. Huschert.

This year, you award winning recipients will be taking home star trophies as a special remembrance to commemorate this fifteen year anniversary. I hope they always serve as a reminder of your stellar submissions for this event. And of course, the Diamond Award awaits the grand prize winner. All of the 128 contributions were exceptionally good this year. So good as a matter of fact, that the 40 jurors from various countries who were looking for a portrayal of creativity and emotion in the films, had to view them twice. The results tallied 1.9 awards pee country.

The President of the jury, Prof. Hagenberg suggested to Mr. Huschert to separate the point ratings nationally and internationally so that more prizes could be awarded, which is great for all you winners, but not so great for Mr. Huschert because he had to pay for all the trophies.

And with that, I would say that we are ready to begin, but before we do, I’d like to ask the winning recipients to remember to please stay a few minutes after the ceremony so that we can make a group picture. Congratulations to all of you. so, I’m excited, I’m sure you’re excited so all I have to say now is: let the awards begin.

Thank you”
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Girls Just Wanna Have Fun
Girls Just Wanna Have Fun
With the charming Sam Jones and friend in Berlin dressed in our Sunday best!
With the lovely Sonja Klima and the lovely Azer Günes
With the lovely Sonja Klima and the lovely Azer Günes
Incompatible with Nature – A Mother’s Story in the Goody Bag - Ronald McDonald Austria Charity Gala November 2016
Incompatible with Nature – A Mother’s Story in the Goody Bag - Ronald McDonald Austria Charity Gala November 2016
The Ronald McDonald Austria Charity Gala November 2016 was moderated by the very charming Alfons Haider who squeezed my hand tightly as he introduced me and my book. He announced that 250 of my books would be in the take home goody-bag. There were over 500 guests in the house and I was told that there were requests for the book well after the last one was gone, which was quite an honor for me. It thrilled me to my core to see my name on the list of sponsors and supporters for this special event.
Every girl loves a fairytale, especially when it’s for a good cause!
Every girl loves a fairytale, especially when it’s for a good cause!
The circus themed charity gala for the Ronald McDonald Gala began with a cocktail reception to welcome the elegantly evening attired guests. Hors d’oeuvres, champagne and cotton candy were served by masqueraders. Great big gargantuan bunches of colorful balloons floated about. In Austria, the four Ronald McDonald houses shelter more than 900 families a year, a dream that becomes reality for many parents and their children. This particular event raised €650,000 for this cause. Priceless!
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Mermaids and Turtles
Mermaids and Turtles
Beautifully made-up and coiffed mermaids were strategically placed on tables and hammocks to be voted by the dinner guests for the title of Miss Red Sea. Over four hundred votes were tallied and the title was given, but I must say that all these gorgeous gals are winners.

And before the night is over, I’ll be looking at the moon and the stars in the sky, deeply inhaling the air that others thousands of years before me have inhaled.

Because…this is Egypt!
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Ronald McDonald Haus Gala am 4. November
Ronald McDonald Haus Gala am 4. November
Ich fühle mich über die Einladung zur Ronald McDonald Haus Gala am 4. November, 2016 in Wien Österreich und der Möglichkeit mein Buch, Incompatible with Nature–a Mother's Story, dort präsentieren zu dürfen sehr geehrt! Vielen Danke Sonja Klima, Präsidentin RMD Österreich für diese großartige Einladung!

So very honored to be invited to present my book, Incompatible with Nature–a Mother's Story, at the Ronald McDonald House Gala on November 4, 2016 in Vienna Austria. Thank you Sonja Klima, President of the RMD Austria for this amazing invitation!

Photo courtesy of Julia Goldsby
Sonja Klima Shining in the menopausebarbee Monday Spotlight!
Sonja Klima Shining in the menopausebarbee Monday Spotlight!
Sometimes dreams really do come true.

Because of the efforts of Sonja Klima, and some very generous supporters of the Ronald McDonald House in Vienna, Austria, a very special dream will be coming true for many parents and their hospitalized babies.

Sonja Klima is one of Austria’s leading ladies. She has been president of Ronald McDonald Austria since 2010 and she is passionate about her involvement with this exceptional organisation.

Last Friday evening, November 4, 2016, she presented her 6th benefit charity gala and gala it was.

The evening was moderated by the very charming Alfons Haider who squeezed my hand tightly as he introduced me and my book. He announced that 250 of my books would be in the take home goody-bag. There were over 500 guests in the house and I was told that there were requests for the book well after the last one was gone…read more at www.menopausebarbees.com
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Interview on Austrian News oe24 TV
Interview on Austrian News oe24 TV
Thank you to Nora Kahn and the Austrian news team at oe24 for the wonderful interview featuring my book. The interview is in German–special thanks to news reporter Nadine Friedrich who warmly welcomed me and conducted an excellent interview.
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“Look to each day for the goodness it brings,

for living life is to believe in all things.”

Tracie Frank Mayer

“Nobody has ever measured, not even poets, how much the heart can hold.”

Zelda Fitzgerald

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